Crystals For Dealing with Loss of Love

Crystals for Dealing with Loss of Love

Dealing with Loss of Love

Healing Your Heart

Lord Alfred Tennyson was famously quoted from his 1849 piece, In Memoriam A.H.H., “'Tis better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all.” Generally, most people seem to believe in this adage and use it quite often. However, in the midst of a breakup, the loss of that love can seem overpowering. There is a movie starring Jim Carey and Kate Winslet called Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind. In this movie the couple (Carey and Winslet) have a bad breakup and go through the mental process of having memories of each other erased. Only to find out that even though the loss of love hurt, they didn’t want to let all of those wonderful memories go. When you experience loss of love in your life it can be devastating. You may even wonder if you’ll ever feel better again at all. We’ve also heard the old saying, “time heals all wounds.” While we do believe in this saying, we also think you can use a little extra to help ease the pain and assist you in moving on. Your little helper can be found right under your feet in healing crystals buried within the earth.

Red is the color of love and passion. While this may seem to be the opposite of what you are looking for, healing loves wounds takes a bit of the hair of the dog that bit you. Red is the color of passion, energy, and life. It motivates. It is a very strong color—the color of fire and blood. Red crystals are used when the situation needs passion: active, involved, energetic action. Red empowers, uplifts, and engulfs. If you are suffering from a lack of power, listlessness, or a low emotional state, you need more red. Like the scarlet ray, the red ray brings us a self-confidence built on fearlessness. When the need is for action without hesitation or self-doubt, use a crystal with a fiery ray of bright red.

Use Red Crystals

Red Crystals

Red Symbol

Red Crystals Bring You Energy, Courage, Passion, and Love

While the empowerment and fiery color of red is good for love and passion, when dealing with the loss of love, we need a subdued, softer side of red, which is of course, pink. Pink is a soothing color, useful to calm feelings of anger or resentment. It is also a comforting color that can aid efforts to meditate. While red brings passion and energy, pink brings soft and gentle love. When we are hurting most from losing love, we need love the most then to restore our heart and put the pieces back together. Pink colored crystals can not only help you deal with loss of love, they can also cure heartache, help you show love, and even find new love. It repairs your broken heart so you are able to accept love into your life once again.

When dealing with loss of love, heartache, or any issues of love at all, you will almost always see Rose Quartz mentioned. Called the Heart Stone, Rose Quartz may have been used as a love token as early as 600 B.C. and is still an important talisman of relationships. It is such a powerful and healing crystal that we would recommend always carrying or wearing one. It is useful for a variety of emotional ailments and overall brings a very soothing energy. Rose Quartz is a calming and reassuring crystal, excellent for use in trauma or crisis. The soft pink emanations of Rose Quartz comforts and heals any wounds the heart has suffered, penetrating the inner chambers of the Heart Chakra where emotional experiences are recorded and stored. It dissolves the sorrows, worries, fears and resentments suppressing the heart's ability to give and receive love, and replaces it with healing, comfort and inner nourishment. A deep sense of personal fulfillment and energy forms a new foundation where inner peace and contentment can become a personal reality.

Another crystal that can help clear your heart, mind, and spirit is Pink Tourmaline. A primary stone of the Heart Chakra, Pink Tourmaline links to the Crown Chakra infusing love and spirituality, encouraging compassion and gentleness during periods of growth and changes as humanity works toward enlightenment. It is an extraordinary crystal for cleansing the emotional body of destructive feelings and old wounds accumulated over time. It releases guilt, worry, depression and anxieties, and guides those emotions into self-love. It helps the emotionally “numb” to recover passion and a zest for life, and helps the timid find the courage to love by changing old patterns of thinking and inspiring new trust in opening the heart. Pink Tourmaline stimulates happiness and joy, peace and relaxation.

Rose Quartz

Rose Quartz

Pink Rose Quartz is the most important crystal of the heart and the Heart Chakra, teaching the true essence of love, and purifying and opening the heart at all levels. It also balances the yin-yang energy and can bring all the other chakras into harmony and unity with the Heart.

Pink Tourmaline

Pink Tourmaline

Pink Tourmaline cleanses the emotional body through the high-heart center and unites it with the etheric body, infusing love and spirituality. It stimulates one’s receptivity to healing energies and the wisdom of Spirit, and brings a gentleness and compassion to one’s nature.

What Authors Say About Crystals

What Other Authors Say


Judy Hall suggests Dioptase which is primarily used as a talisman to aid efforts to grow physically stronger and to aid in efforts to secure a sound financial future.

Dioptase can act as a bridge to emotional healing, especially for the child within. Its green ray reaches deep within the heart to absorb festering wounds and forgotten hurts. It dissolves grief, betrayal, and sorrow and is extremely effective for healing heartache and the pain of abandonment.



Michael Gienger recommends Amethyst which is a well known healer that has profound effects in balancing the crown chakra.

Amethyst will help with sadness and grief and lend support in coming to terms with loss.



Robert Simmons advocates Lepidolite which is a stone for dispelling negativity and restoring calm in a hostile environment.

Lepidolite is a stone of spiritual purification, and meditation with it can clear blocked energies in any of the chakras and throughout the meridian system. It can dispel negative thoughts and removes negative emotional attachments such as resentment and envy.

In Summary

It is fair to say that at some point in our lives we have all dealt with a loss of love. It can be an emotionally devastating experience, one that may be hard to recover from. We may feel depressed, hurt, angry, betrayed, and sad. However, there is hope for the aching heart. The soothing pink color rays can lull your broken heart and open it once again to receive love. When dealing with loss of love we recommend pink colored crystals such as Rose Quartz and Pink Tourmaline. You can also try crystals that other authors have suggested such as Dioptase, Amethyst, and Lepidolite.


Stones of the New Consciousness

Stones of the New Consciousness: Healing, Awakening and Co-creating with Crystals, Minerals and Gems
Stones of the New Consciousness
Simmons, Robert

(Berkely, CA:
(North Atlantic Books 2009)

Crystal Power, Crystal Healing

Crystal Power, Crystal Healing
Crystal Power, Crystal Healing
Gienger, Michael

(United Kingdom:
Blanford 1998)

The Crystal Bible

Crystal Bible
The Crystal Bible
Hall, Judy

(Cincinnati, OH:
Walking Stick Press, 2003)

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  2. Pink Tourmaline on Matrix Set

    Pink Tourmaline on Matrix Set



  3. Cobaltoan Calcite Cluster

    Cobaltoan Calcite Cluster



  4. Amethyst Phantom Point (Large)

    Amethyst Phantom Point (Large)



  5. Fluorescent Pink Mangano Calcite Cluster
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    Ametrine Crystal



  7. Rose Quartz Tumbled (Small)

    Rose Quartz Tumbled (Small)



  8. Super Seven Floating Pendant

    Super Seven Floating Pendant



  9. Polished Amethyst Point

    Polished Amethyst Point



  10. Rose Quartz Love Herbal Bath Tea Bag

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