Crystals for Abandonment
Dealing with Loss
The loss of someone close to you is a natural part of life. It can be just a friend moving to a new city where their job takes them, or the death of a loved one with whom a long life was shared. The result can be a sense of abandonment.
Dealing with feelings of abandonment can be very stressful. While professional help is important in severe cases, the use of crystals can be very beneficial in dealing with natural feelings of abandonment when separation from loved ones is causing stress in your life.
Orange Crystals for Abandonment
To deal with abandonment or desertion by a loved one or friend, use a dark orange crystal. Orange is a happy, outgoing, and sharing color. It brings things and people together. It integrates the parts of our communal lives. Orange is the "home stone", the "village stone", and the "community stone".
Darker shades of orange deepen the sense of belonging and home feelings that help cope with feelings of abandonment. If you are lucky enough to find a powerful deep orange stone, use it as a "home stone" by placing it centrally in your house to ensure the hospitality of home and hearth. To keep a family happy together, a team working well, or a congregation united, a dark orange crystal is perfect.
Some of the uses of orange crystals include focusing our energy to overcome distrust, timidity, or shyness. These antisocial behaviors make friendships suffer. Use an orange crystal when you want to focus your energy on developing outgoing, caring, and friendly behaviors.
Carnelian is a stabilizing crystal, perfect for anchoring in the present. Its high energy helps restore lost vitality and motivation, and stimulates creativity for new pursuits. It improves concentration and removes extraneous thoughts in daydreamers, and during meditation. This stone also protects against envy, rage, and resentment – yours, or from others, and encourages a love of life. It is useful for overcoming abuse of any kind; helping you to trust yourself and your judgments.
Carnelian lends the courage needed to help overcome difficulties and defend a cause. It promotes idealism, a sense of community and pragmatism. Carnelian is a crystal of action, overcoming procrastination or indecision. It encourages one to stop waiting for dreams to appear, and stimulates the courage to embrace change and Divine Will to begin to make one’s highest goals happen.
The energies of Spessartine vibrate at a high rate, imparting a willingness to help others and strengthening the heart. Spessartine also stimulates aspects of creative abilities and energies, encouraging one to take action toward one’s dreams, visions and goals. The energy emitted by Spessartine promotes feelings of happiness from within, and aids in making life more fulfilling. This crystal will assist all who have difficulty making themselves seen and/or heard within group situations, whether work, family or leisure.
It helps one to talk about and clear oppressing and embarrassing things regarded as taboos. Spessartine assists in overcoming fear of new experiences, and encouraging one to be more impulsive, spontaneous and intuitive. It helps alleviate fear of failure and gives confidence to take new paths and change one’s life.
Crystal Energy Items for Dealing with Abandonment
All of these crystal items were made in collaboration with Certified Crystal Alchemists and Certified Crystal Masters.
What Other Crystal Authors Recommend
Diane Stein finds rose colored stones helpful, too. This is the color ray of determination, commitment, and caring.
"Rose is the color of new love, new romance, and new relationships. It is particularly powerful in Seeker and Attractor crystals."
Anji Gill-Jennings of Twisted Tree tells us, “The Dioptase is unequalled in helping in the healing of the deeply hurt heart. Dioptase nurtures that part of the self that has been emotionally abandoned whilst experiencing life’s heartaches."
Brenna Coleman writing at Suite 101 shares this view. She tells us talking about Dioptase, “This deep blue-green healing gemstone can act to heal emotional suffering and heartache due to losing someone. It is good for alleviating grief, abandonment, and betrayal while also promoting a positive outlook on life.”
"Dioptase is primarily used as a talisman to aid efforts to grow physically stronger and to aid in efforts to secure a sound financial future. It is also used healing efforts involving the Heart Chakra."
Judy Hall recommends Uvarovite, for dealing with solitude. Uvarovite is a dark green garnet that Cassandra Eason tells us assists in healing emotional wounds.
"Uvarovite promotes individuality, independence, and optimism. Uvarovite stimulates the Heart Chakra and enhances spiritual relationships."
Nicole Lanning of Healing Art Forms tells us “For abandonment issues, you want to make sure you have a Rhodonite crystal.”
"Rhodonite is not a healing stone in the traditional sense. It is used to prevent injury and loss. It is more of an insurance and protective stone. Use it to prevent accidents and injuries before engaging in activities that are prone to injury and particularly in the winter to avoid common ailments from viruses."
Abandonment whether physical separation or emotional distancing can be very debilitating. Please seek professional care for serious issues.